Until my wife finally conceded (5 or 6 years ago) that she just wasn’t interested in sex anymore I was a real “straight-arrow”. Once that info was dropped I eventually began to think of possible “possibilities”. NDN and NTN as well. Over the past three or four years my interest has turned almost exclusively to cocks. I started going to a gay bathhouse over in Dallas two months ago and really enjoying myself. In the dim light of the Maze even without touching or being touched, just being around a number of guys (younger and older), towels or not, seeing all of the cocks has been a “freeing” experience. I go once or twice a week now for a few hours and really enjoy the freedom that “cums” from watching the TVs and gently stroking in the presence of others. I’m experiencing more stroking of other cocks now and being stroked as I get the “hang” of it. Two guys have cum in my hand (an exhilarating experience). No direct oral contact. Condoms are provided along with hand sanitizer. A room with an open door is generally an invitation to step inside and partake in some mutual pleasures. I was against moving here (from Alaska) with no mountains, forest, desert, ocean or snow (or sex) but finding Club Dallas has softened my personal “resentment” a great deal knowing that I’ll be going back over there in a few days. Walking among others in the dimly lit areas and seeing them fondling their cocks is “soothing” in some undefined way. Occasionally there’ll be a pair (or more) that are actively participating with several others either watching or waiting their “turn”. My nipples are quite pronounced when excited so I sometimes gently pull and roll on them while seeking a “playmate”. A “taker” will usually reach out and touch the other nipple. Game on! I can’t wait to get back over there in the coolness of the dim lighting with my fingers, bathed in Astrolube, wrapped around a wonderfully firm cock.

The term TVs was for televisions, large wall mounted computer monitors.

What an EXTREMELY hot description! To my knowledge, there's no place like that where I live. Even if there was, I'd probably be too chicken to visit. You DEFINITELY paint the picture of it not being as"pressure filled" as a mind can tend to make things to be. I'd happily let you strike my cock until I cum in your hand.....in addition to SO much more😘

I drove by the place a few times and just looked at the outside (too chicken to go in). Finally, I decided “what the hell, I’m a grown man, let’s make this happen”. As I opened the door, it was nicely cool inside (over 100 outside), the young guy at the window was very pleasant and I plunked down my money and never looked back. Next visit I bought the 6 month pass and now I go about twice a week. It has taken the “pressure” off of “not getting it at home”. No “intimate” contact without a condom (oral, etc,) but lots of hand action!

It's good they focus on safety. The thought of hot anonymous sex is SUCH a turn on....but the realities are too scary to risk. AK, how did you feel the first time you stroked somebody's cock until they came in your hand?

Oh yeah….. I am safety first, all the way! No oral, genital, anal contact without a condom or rubber glove. And YES! It IS a turn on (in my book anyway). Once you go to the club you pay at the front desk (window), they give you a key to either a locker or one of the small rooms. The key is on an elastic loop that you put around your arm (ankle?). For Club Dallas, their website has some nice pictures of the facility. The fellow at the desk gives you a towel and in you go. Head down the hall (50 ft or so) to the locker room or further down the hall if you’ve opted for one of the small rooms. Undress and put your clothes as you’d like, wrap the towel around your waist and head to the showers. Two locations, one next to the locker room and a second one (larger) with the hot tub and sauna.

I love the shower heads and soap dispensers are on the wall. Then you can take your choice of the hot tub, the sauna or the steam room (all within 10 or 15 feet of each other. After I shower I normally step into the sauna to dry (nice and warm in there and drying is quicker. Linger if you’d like, there may be a surprise awaiting you. But heading back to the darker area where the rooms and the mazes are located. The evening of the first “cumming” I had stopped at one of the “cubbies” to see what might be happening. I call them cubbies but there’s probably a better name. A little larger than a phone booth, big enough for two people with similar ideas. No sit down. A towel rack on the wall to get your towel out of the way momentarily (or to hang onto in a moment of extacy) and a “glory hole” opening into the next stall for those so inclined. These particular cubbies are open at the top back panel (probably 18” high). I had stepped into this particular one because I could see guys legs through that open top panel. The floor on the other side is about 3 or 4 feet higher than the cubby and when you look out, you’re right about at cock level. There were several pairs of legs that I could see and a semi rigid cock between each pair. I’m not really sure what was going on and any given “situation” may only last for a couple of minutes before it breaks up and people move on to differing venues. So, there’s a nice thick cock with its attendant hand about a foot away from the opening. I reached through with my gloved, Astrolube hand and lightly touched the inside of his thigh with the back of my fingers. Apparently, he looked down, saw the hand and immediately stepped closer so I could wrap my fingers around his cock. Now, a tight fitting rubber glove with Astrolube is absolutely super smooth and warm. I just did the kind of things I’d like done and his hips kept thrusting back and forth with small strokes and presently he was cumming in my hand (lots of it too). Knowing the sensitivity goes way up at that point I slacked off on the movements and pressure as he went soft in my hand. Presently he pulled out and was gone. I moved quickly down the way 20 feet or so (preserves the anonymity of the situation). I’d never seen another cock in orgasm before but it was really interesting to watch.

Time for another rubber glove and some hand sanitizer (mounted on the walls) and mosey along to see what else is going on. Everyone has their own definition of “safety”. “Stuff” is spread through bodily fluids and openings in the skin. Oral sex with condoms (supplied), hand jobs with a slick rubber glove. Even just sitting and watching the videos that play while you languidly stroke your own cock is an approved activity. You see lots of that.

So, that’s what happens at Club Dallas and each time I go the activity is different. Sometimes it’s just a lot of guys doing their own thing (sometimes you hear on orgasm in progress). The first time I went I didn’t do anything but just being around that many naked cocks felt so freeing. Obviously, results may vary!

Yes, I'm in the same boat as the original poster. My wife is precisely as he describes his wife. I've already acted, so I'm past the curious stage. I like mutual oral and prefer a guy with a similar endowment to myself. Male to male sex can be very satisfying. It's been a year and a half since my last encounter, and I'm eager for another after several near misses in connecting.

When I was married to my first wife I had various affairs fairly early on, her too. Always with women. But the thought of man on man was lingering in the back of my brain.

I had had a few experiences when I was younger, mostly the show my yours, I'll show you mine and just masturbating. I did try oral when I was 19 and found it quite exciting.

One night my wife and I had a 3way with a male friend. I sucked his cock and he stroked mine, but I think that sparked the fire.

My wife and I sort of lost touch sexually. I know she was meeting with guys on the sly. And so I started looking for outside pleasures as well. Only this time I was looking for men. And I found some!

First marriage went in the toilet and I was soon remarried. The first few years it was constant sex and the thoughts of man sex all but disappeared. But after several years, the sexual frequency waned and the thought of cock reentered my head...both of them, lol.

I began seeking and found it again. A lot!

Still married and love her dearly but I just so crave cock! I try to hook up as often as I can and have a couple guys who I meet with semi-regular. I am always the bottom and get quite slutty. I also enjoy crossdressing and being a submissive.

I would love my wife to participate but she is not interested.

Yes, I am a straight married male, who has been interested in exploring my sexuality with another male. I think about being given a nice, long, edging and teasing HJ/BJ by another experienced male. I even would like to have my cock stroked and sucked off by another male. I don’t have any desire to suck off another male, but I would love to give a HJ, to another male.
Paul

I too am a married male who's wife lost interest in all forms of sex.
So T toke a look at this problem. I decided to start looking for married men with the same problem as what I had.. When one would tell me his problem -- I would ask him if he was looking for someone to suck his cock.. If he said YES ... I would tell him - I know some one but you have to keep a secret -- If he said YES -- I would see if something could be worked out.---
If he said YES ---Then I would tell him === I would like to suck his cock - Well most of the time they say YES --- AND THE# GAME IS ON

I’m married and I secretly fantasize about another man or a group of men, taking me and dominating me. Putting me on my knees. Surrounding me. Pulling their cocks out. Making me suck their cocks. Spraying my face with their hot cum. Bending me over. Pushing their hard Cocks into my tight Virgin hole. Taking turns fucking my mouth and ass. Or perhaps it’s just one guy. We’re watching the game on TV. He catches me glancing at the bulge of his cock. Next thing I know his cock head is poking out his shorts. I can’t help but stare at it. It starts to stiffen and grow before my eyes, lifting up into the air. I feel his hand on the back of my head. He pulls my face down towards his stiffening cock.

“Don’t worry. It’ll be our secret. I won’t tell your wife. Suck it. Suck my big cock.”

I put my hands on his thighs resisting him.

“I’m not…

“I know you want it. I know you want cock. Suck it. Before she gets home. Suck my cock.”

“Promise you won’t tell her?”

“I promise. You wanna suck it don’t you?”

“Yes,” I whisper, the scent of his cock filling my nostrils.

“I’m gonna cum all over your face. Into your mouth.”

“Oh God,” I whisper.

He shoves his cock into my mouth. He makes me suck it. He squeezes my hard skinny bulge as I suck his big cock. I end up squirting in my pants as hot cum shoots into my mouth, as another spurt hits my face. He makes me lick and suck his cock clean afterwards. I just have time to change my pants before my wife gets home.

“I may have to seduce and fuck your wife too. Right in front of you. Make you suck my cock hard for her.”

One of my submissive cuckold fantasies.

OP, over the years, I've come (no pun intended) to believe that this is a very common situation. We get older and our wives lose interest. In my case, the sex grew less and less frequent. Adding to the decline was me being so tired all the time, and my wife having a bum knee so there was virtually no variety in our positions. I would love, LOVE, to do her doggy style or, even better, have her ride me cowgirl or reverse cowgirl. But... nope, not with that knee. And there's no more oral or "digital" sex, either. We still love each other but... you guys get it.

In addition to the slow (and perhaps arguably natural) decline in our activity, I found that since I'd dropped my last gym membership, I was actually missing being in the locker rooms, showers, saunas, and steam rooms with other naked males. I gather now that nudity is a bit of a no-no (which is absolutely absurd) but back when I did go to gyms, it was unquestionably the norm that guys were naked, walked around naked, showered naked, and so on. So it was that I found myself, an older guy, missing that... that... well, whatever it was about being in the company of other naked males (whatever their age). I also found myself thinking back to the few boy/boy situations I'd had all those decades ago but now with a completely different attitude. And as I've spent more time online discussing such things, and reading other guys' experiences (not just gay guys, but guys who considered themselves straight), it appeared that most boys had multiple incidents with other boys. I didn't, really, but I started to "what if" my memories (what if I'd done this, or what if I let him see that...). The bottom line is that I wish I HAD shared my naked, fit body with the boys who wanted it. I wish I hadn't reacted with horror the two times I realized I was becoming erect because of seeing another boy naked. The first such incident, I was about 15 and the other boy was my pre-pubescent little cousin, about 10 1/2 or 11. The second incident, the naked boy was my best friend in high school, a boy I'd seen naked many times every week for almost three years with no such reaction (we were 17 or 18 when it happened).

End result - these days I LOVE seeing photos of naked males just as much as I've always loved seeing photos of naked females.

Sigh... hindsight is, indeed, 20/20 and youth is, most definitely, wasted on the young!

In exactly the same position as you. My fascination started 10 years ago. I gathered the courage to try with someone from a local bi site and never looked back. I now have a regular boyfriend. We meet every week for a few drinks and a couple of hours between the sheets. We are both as wild as each other. Anything goes between us. His cock and arse are so lovely to suck and rim and his cum is like a sweet milkshake. Rather be with him than the wife. I am 60 now and could never go to another woman. We turn each other on so much we are usually dripping before we met with excitement.

Kinda opposite for me. My wife just doesn't do it for me anymore. I'd rather jack off and toy my ass to gay, bi, and trans porn.

I am a straight, married male, who really enjoys the feeling of an experienced male stroking and sucking me off! I love giving back, a nice, long, edging and teasing HJ!
Paul

I discovered about 5 years my penchant for men and my pleasure gas gone from strength to strength. I have met and still meet some wonderful men who are in the same boat and just want pleasure. Events range from quickies to overnight full on sex. I have discovered another life. I am not out as k prefer it that way but my sex life has improved and so has my nature. I love a good cock and pleasing a man as I would like to be pleased. Love cum, rimming a nice clean man, piss play sometimes happens and love to fuck and be fucked with cock or toys. Life is a bowl of cherries if you can find what you like.

I am married as well. She has no interest at all and has told me several time to find someone else and leave her alone. I know she does not mean it that way. But we have needs even if they don't. Have had a few sexual affairs with women but they all seam to want to play games in the end. So I have started to look for other avenues to help get some satisfaction sexually. Not sure what all I am into but a good blow job to start would be nice and then see where the comfort level goes from there. Timing and a place to play are always the big issue.

I've been a closet cock sucker all my life but once my wife told me she was no longer wanting to have sex I really started sucking a lot of cock. Currently I suck off 5 former workmates whenever they ask. I swallow their cum and even let 3 fuck my asshole. Some return the favor but I really just love being a cock sucking sperm eater whenever they want!

Yes, I'm married and love cock play. My mid 50's wife has slowed down to once a week. Planned. After showers on Saturday or Sunday. Same routine each time for about 30 minutes. She has 5 or 6 orgasms, I get one. If she says she's done before I cum, too bad for me. If we miss a weekend for some reason (grandkids over, relative visiting, work) it has to wait until the next weekend. I need more.

I started sucking cock with my cousin as a young teen. I loved it right away, first time. Ever since I'd enjoyed sucking cock and getting sucked off my a man whenever I get the chance. Men are much more easy going about sex. Women bring so much emotional baggage.

So I'm looking for a jack off and suck buddy near me in Oakland County Michigan.

I am married. My wife and I have been struggling with sex a long long time. I want it, she has the idea that I should respect her by accepting her occasional sexual alowences. When I looked outside the marriage to meet my own sexual desires, (she was not interested in how I felt, it’s all about her), I found women wanting too much connection. They prefer men who spends a fortune on them to then tell them “let’s be friends” ah NO don’t need a friend git one at home married to me. So I ended up meeting a guy and WOW!! I LIKED IT.

Women bring too much baggage to a just sex meeting. Guys are much simpler and know how to have fun with sex.

I know technically it's cheating to play around with another guy but it doesn't feel like it.
It's just me helping a buddy out. Little chance of him wanting more of me then trying to wreck my marriage.

Hi, I'm married and was in the same position you're in, a number of years ago.
I tried sucking a cock and found it very nice. You should give it a try

Married nearly 30 yrs, love me wife more than ever . But cock and receiving anal is always on my mind

Similar here too. Wife has had very little interest in sex for years now and I have had to find pleasure with other men particularly men who like putting in lingerie even though we both like fucking women too.

I am married in the closet cock lover.

I suck and fuck with a lot of married men. I was surprised to find out most of the married men wanted to suck me off, and most of them swallow my cum .

Interestingly. That's how I started out.
In my 20s. Had this old guy started giving me BJs. After awhile I thought it wouldn't hurt (plus thought I owed him), I'd give him a HJ. As I would give him HJs, he'd stick his dick in my face. Long story short. One day as I opened my mouth a little he slide his cock in.

I am a straight, married male,69 years who discovered the joys and pleasure of exploring M2M sexual pleasures about 5 years ago and I have found that it’s an amazing experience. I 1st got started with watching guys stroking themselves and found that it really turned me on to watch guys stroking themselves and guys giving guys a helping hand happy ending. From there, I decided, with the encouragement of a female friend to explore my sexuality. From there, I started exploring guys that wanted to stroke and suck me off. It was an amazing experience. Then, I tried out giving back HJ’s to other males. That too was an awesome experience. Just don’t have any interest in sucking off another male!
I encourage any male who wants to explore his sexuality, to go for it and see what you like and don’t like about M2M sexual pleasures
Paul